writing a character reference
writing skills, how to write references
writing a character reference
NO is about boundaries.
For whom are you writing a character reference? Why have you been chosen to write a character reference? Are there any limits or guidelines regarding what you will choose to write? Will it be the truth? Are you willing to stand by what you intend to write? If there is any come-back, could it be serious?
writing skills, how to write references
writing a character reference
HELLO is about opening up.
What aspects of the person you are writing about need to be brought to the attention of the reader? Are there specific characteristics about which you have been asked to comment? How open are you prepared to be about what you know and think? Will this expand the awareness for those concerned?
writing skills, how to write references
writing a character reference
THANK YOU is about gratitude and feelings.
What is it about the person for whom you are writing a reference that you particularly appreciate and value? Are these characteristics that the recipient will value? Is the person kind and able to truly give without needing to receive in return.
writing skills, how to write references
writing a character reference
GOODBYE is about moving on.
Is the person decisive? Do they have courage to move in to the unknown? Can they quickly let go of the past? Are they good at tidying up before moving on?
writing skills, how to write references
writing a character reference
PLEASE is about vision and cooperating.
Is the person assertive? Are they good at choosing and asking for what they want? Are they more likely to take action than to grumble? Can they easily enlist the help of others?
writing skills, how to write references
writing a character reference
SORRY is about taking responsibility and release.
In your opinion, is this person humble? Are they responsible? Are they able to 'forgive and forget'? When they cause harm do they do all they can to rectify matters?
writing skills, how to write references
writing a character reference
YES is about accepting what is.
Is the person for whom you are writing a character reference able to reach agreement with others, whole-heartedly endorsing declared intentions? Or is their acceptance or permission somewhat reluctant?
suggested link
For FREE character appraisal index Psychology Spotlight
